He's Not Lazy: Empowering Your Son to Believe In Himself

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He's Not Lazy: Empowering Your Son to Believe In Himself

He's Not Lazy: Empowering Your Son to Believe In Himself

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I could clearly identify with the explanations of the author in the causes of underachievement in teenage boys.

Honestly, I never thought that having the amazing opportunity of witnessing the transition of my son becoming an adult was going to drive me crazy, to make me doubt myself in one year more than I have during my whole life, to make me want to give up, run away and hide for the next 10 years.The parents' change in perspective is the most important key; in the process, they will help their sons create self-sufficient, self-regulated plans. This is not a book for every parent of every kid, but if your son is school adverse, bored, interested in other things rather than school, sometimes overwhelmed with where to begin, works hard at things he enjoys, this book might be for you. As the former Director of Outpatient Services at Newark Beth Israel Hospital and Associate Director at Family Connections, a mental health agency, he has supervised and trained numerous clinicians in family and child therapy.

This was a great eye-opening book for me and such a relief to find a clear way to explain exactly how I feel. Additionally, what about our LGBTQ boys that approach their transformation into sexual beings in perhaps a different way?However, as I was reading the introduction, I got already convinced that this book is going to be a great tool for me. But this book didn't address what to do if the child fails, and fails, and fails, and doesn't change his ways. He’s NOT trying hard, not seemingly concerned about grades or school, in fact they might describe him as ‘barely motivated’, or even ‘lazy’. There are clear explanations of teenage brain development, the role of male hormones, the impact of burgeoning sexuality, and teenagers’ need to find their feet as independent social and emotional beings.

These types of parenting books are often hard to get into and hard to finish, but this one was necessary and helpful to me for one of my children at this particular time of my life. He has presented widely to both parents and educators on opting out, child development, and learning disabilities, and has appeared on “Good Day New York” and other programs to discuss topics ranging from discipline to the impact of video games on children. This is especially true for boys who are known to be very smart -- instead of dealing with the anxiety and potential of failure, he takes the "opt-out" route.It’s the first one I’ve read in the area of understanding teenage boys that really spoke to me and made sense of this sometimes difficult season for families.

It's written for middle/upper class parents who have somehow managed to find themselves with nearly no idea how adolescent development works. This book is for a C student who's 100% into the consumer culture and expectations of American maleness. It offered some solid advice and some that I thought to be a bit unrealistic, although it may be realistic for other kids (like writing their feelings in a journal… a great idea but I’m not sure it applies to the kids he’s talking about). It is so simple but oh so real and raw and sincere and compassionate that I already know I will read it more than once. Also, and importantly, they have some kind of issues where they are super immersed in their kid's life, like they get all their self-esteem from their kids accomplishments.

The author makes us realizing that controlling and being overinvolved parents actually cripple our children, and make them believe they can't do it. If you name a consequence, be prepared to enforce it, regardless of your son's complaints and threats. I found this book to be an incredibly useful tool for me as I LEARNED how to navigate my flawed interpretation of my son's inaction. Parents can help by giving chart outline of steps and strategies but let them fill it in after one or two helping them. He covers so much that I have heard over the years: executive functioning, growth mindset, gender differences, scaffolding, etc.



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